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GONE BLONDE!

If you love fashion, you’re probably also into beauty. I know I am. Since my illness, I’ve been forced to slow down and it’s taken about a year to grow into my new skinned slower life. At first I was constantly feeling pressure to rush because I had to get to something else even though my schedule was now empty. A year later, I’ve happily adjusted to this new life, never thinking that I could before. I fill my time easily with creative projects as well as more meditative pursuits like cleaning and gardening which are mindless and provide excellent thinking time.

Thinking time has allowed me to evaluate who I am and what makes me happy. I’ve never had time to do this before, as a mother, always thinking about everyone else, putting myself last, even when it meant lack of attention to grooming. I’ve learned that I am a very aesthetic person. I need to be surrounded by beauty, color, calm in order to feel happy. This applies to my home, my personal appearance, even my pets.

So for me to forgo my personal beauty in order to take care of others first is a big sacrifice, but one that I happily did for years because the happiness of my family topped my own needs. But now that I have time, I can indulge in my playful, fun side and that is exactly what I am doing.

For instance, I got a second piercing in my ears. I would have never done this except for the fact that both my daughters have 3 ear piercings each. I was initially against this, but they wear their earrings so tastefully, that I started to think about it myself. What fun it would be to wear TWO sets of earrings at one time! I kind of timed it wrong though, as I had just started a very dangerous medicine that completely knocks out my immune system and I am supposed to be very careful about avoiding infections. So for the six weeks it took to heal, my new piercings were constantly infected. Fortunately, as a doctor, I had on hand a very powerful antibiotic ointment which took care of the situation.

I also decided to go blonde all the way. I’ve had gold highlights most of my adult life,never actually going all the way blonde, however. But why not now? I don’t have to go anywhere, don’t have to worry about being judged or evaluated in my old conservative hospital environment, so I took the plunge. The process actually took ten months to do properly, keeping my hair healthy, but I’m finally there!

finally blonde!

And here’s how I did it:

  • Level 1: Black
  • Level 2: Darkest (almost black) brown
  • Level 3: Very dark brown
  • Level 4: Dark brown
  • Level 5: Brown
  • Level 6: Light brown
  • Level 7: Dark
  • Level 8: Medium blond
  • Level 9: Blond
  • Level 10: Light blond
  1. Bleach- my base color is a level 5 if you go by the above chart (https://www.byrdie.com/hair-color-101-3517630) and I wanted to lighten it to at least a level 9. That’s 4 levels which really should not be done all at once, as the hair could become damaged enough to break. I love the ION products . I mix the ION creme lightener (bleach) with the ION 30 volume developer in a 1:2 ratio (2 oz of bleach for 4 oz developer).

I applied the mixture to my hair by parting it into four sections and securing each with clips. Then with the sharp end of the applicator brush, parted each section into one inch pieces and applying bleach from the scalp to the ends until my whole head was done. In retrospect, this was a mistake as I did not know that the hair near the scalp lightens much faster due to the heat generated, and it is better to apply to the roots last.

So after about 30 minutes (times are different depending on your own hair and you must check a small area every 5-10 minutes by removing the bleach with a damp washcloth and then reapplying to that area if it is not ready. Not having any prior experience,I thought I was done. But I ended up bright orange. In fact, we went on a road trip shortly after that and in all the pictures my hair was orange! I was actually too sick to care and laughed it off. Then I started reading online and watching You Tube videos. I love www.youtube.com/user/Ellebangs. She is a blonde expert and gives great advice and explanations.

I used coconut oil every day liberally which smells heavenly and made my hair so shiny and healthy looking. I buy this stuff in packs of two and have gone through at least 3 bottles so far! It is a lifesaver

2. Every time my roots grow out, I repeat the bleaching at the roots but then either use a toner to remove the brassiness or my current favorite, a demi permanent color: ION 9NA which got me to my current color.

3. I only use this process on the new growth and crown, trying to avoid rebleaching already blonde hair. The demi color goes over my entire crown and starting at around ear level, I apply ION creme oil lightener which contains argan oil and is very gently to already-bleached hair.

4. I leave the lightener for only 10-15 minutes, as it works super fast!

5. Shampoo time with ION cool blonde purple shampoo and conditioner. The purple is what keeps the brass at bay with each washing, and it works superbly!

6. Style as usual and finish with that marvelous coconut oil and you can do it too! Save money, have fun and indulge your creative side!

Have fun…

idm

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closet selfies…

the great closet selfiehttps://idressmodest.com/product/raw-edge-linen-top
the great closet selfiehttps://idressmodest.com/product/leopard-print-skirt

I never imagined how much fun I would have with selfies. At first it was unimagineable to me, as I considered myself to be completely nonphotogenic. I’m usually the only one that looks bad in a group photo. And when I started taking selfies (actually for medical reasons), I was horrified by the great detail in the pictures.

First, the phone flipped the picture which automatically made me look bad. Then it captured every fine detail of my face, which, trust me, at my age is not beneficial. Finally, I had to learn not to hold the phone close to my face when shooting because I would come out cross-eyed!

But over time I discovered the world of filters. I discovered the best angles and poses and lighting. I started to pose more naturally and actually began to have fun. I might even confess to being a bit addicted.

Then I had the problem of finding a model for my store. There shouldn’t be a problem as I have two lovely models as offspring but they refuse to do me this favor. So I was left with no choice but to model myself. Yikes!

On to the closet selfie. On a bad weather day, where in my busy house can I model clothing? The closet has fantastic lighting, a white wall and is perfect! Cramped space but good pictures and the birth of a new idea!

closet selfie funhttps://idressmodest.com/product/farmer-dress

You should try it yourself! It passes an afternoon of bad weather. It’s creative. You might even like your photos. And then-who knows? You may find yourself posting them too!

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acronyms…

You might want to know that idressmodest fashion blog has a sister site called itsmyotherlife. A few days ago a post was published about acronyms and their fantastic usefulness as a stress buster. If you’re curious (and you might be because it’s pretty funny) check it out at https://wordpress.com/block-editor/post/itsmyotherlife.com/836

But if you’re too lazy to switch back and forth, and I get it, really I do, then stay right here and I will entertain you with some fashionable acronyms instead. And these can be seen on our instagram feed @idressmodest as well!

DN2B: our first lesson-

Dare NOT to bare! I dare you not to bare as much and see what happens! For me, I’m less self conscious for one. Also people like to say that I am different, more refined. Yes, people have actually said this to me! When I cover more, people listen to me. I feel respected, appreciated and happy. So I dare you to try.

I’m not advocating an kind of extremism here. I’m just saying that when I present myself in a more refined fashion (pun intended) I feel more respected.

And as I get older, I find that my style suits motherhood well. After all, as a mother, you are constantly sitting on the floor, scooting around, bending over,etc. I’d rather not everyone see everything, much less my growing children who comment on EVERYTHING they see-right?

So modesty has its advantages.

If you’re still looking for your perfect spouse/ partner, you will also attract better people by baring less. If you find that you always attract the wrong sort of person, you might want to consider this. Definitely not a rule, but makes sense, no?

I’m sure many readers will have some powerful opinions about my opinion but I write this lightly and with humor. I’m just sharing what seems to have worked well for me and now, with my children almost grown, I can sit back and re-evaluate my choices. I am happy with how I chose to behave, dress and act and I feel that I am a positive role model for my children and their friends.

And that brings us to:

Try a little more modest, and see how beautiful it makes you feel!

idm

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closet selfies…

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the great closet selfie https://idressmodest.com/product/leopard-print-skirt/ ‎Edit

I never imagined how much fun I would have with selfies. At first it was unimagineable to me, as I considered myself to be completely nonphotogenic. I’m usually the only one that looks bad in a group photo. And when I started taking selfies (actually for medical reasons), I was horrified by the great detail in the pictures.

First, the phone flipped the picture which automatically made me look bad. Then it captured every fine detail of my face, which, trust me, at my age is not beneficial. Finally, I had to learn not to hold the phone close to my face when shooting because I would come out cross-eyed!

But over time I discovered the world of filters. I discovered the best angles and poses and lighting. I started to pose more naturally and actually began to have fun. I might even confess to being a bit addicted.

Then I had the problem of finding a model for my store. There shouldn’t be a problem as I have two lovely models as offspring but they refuse to do me this favor. So I was left with no choice but to model myself. Yikes!

On to the closet selfie. On a bad weather day, where in my busy house can I model clothing? The closet has fantastic lighting, a white wall and is perfect! Cramped space but good pictures and the birth of a new idea!

closet selfie funhttps://idressmodest.com/product/farmer-dress

You should try it yourself! It passes an afternoon of bad weather. It’s creative. You might even like your photos. And then-who knows? You may find yourself posting them too!

idm

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on skorts, skants and splirts…

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I dunno…for years I tried to bike in a skirt. With leggings underneath, or just hiking up the skirt. See, I live in a modest community and dress modestly in accordance with our beliefs. It’s not always easy. Like when you want to ride a bike, or go to the beach, or just be cool on a hot day. Well, I found some solutions for all of you who might contend with these issues or for anyone who thinks these are cool.

First is the skort. Most people know what these are-a set of shorts inside a skirt. Usually the skirt is short which removes it as a modest contender generally. But if you’re like me, you might resort to one of these at the beach or for running (when I used to run..)

Leggings under longer skirts work in cooler weather but leggings  are not what I want to wear in the summer. So that’s the purpose of a skant.

The SKANT  is a skirt-pant. Longer than a skort. Cooler and looser than leggings. Ours is made of linen and is lightweight and airy. It even has adjustable buttons on the sides of the skirt which can be worn open for more movement.

C47355A2-17C2-468C-B208-2AFF98925F80But if you’re looking for more of a “skirt,” the SPLIRT  might be your thing. The splirt is a split skirt and is really a very billowy set of pants. However, nobody can see anything when you mount your bike (or horse). Also, nobody would doubt that you are wearing a skirt, as when standing, it is impossible to tell!

Which brings us to culottes. Culottes are a shorter than a splirt. They fall just below the knee. Ours are composed of thick cotton, much like khaki pants and are just as rugged. They are absolutely adorable, as are all of these styles.

While you’re checking these out, don’t forget to pair them with our tees. We have lots of linen tees, as well as a new selection of graphic tees. All can be mixed and matched into fun combinations.

0D48AF25-B41A-4698-AE06-CB9232D75686fullsizeoutput_31a4Happy shopping for skirts, splirts and skants!

idm

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#fashioninspo…

Are you looking to break out of your fashion rut this spring? We have the answers! Here to give you some new ideas and get you in the mood for the season!

favorite denim skirt and speckled linen top

1.who doesn’t love denim?

No matter what’s the season or year, denim is always in. This year we bring you a blast from the past. Remember your favorite denim skirts as a teenager? The ones that actually comforted you when choosing them in the morning? Well here’s our pick…the “favorite denim skirt.” Roomy, chunky,distressed and above all, cute… it’s your year-round workhorse. With a comfy elastic waistband and loose style, it’s comfortable in almost all temps.

farmer dress

Then there’s the ‘”farmer dress.” Another cute piece with distressed accents in surprising places. Such as the snap slit in the front.. and the upside down pockets in the back! And for even more interest, the hem has belt loops! Plus this one is also a slip-on loose piece that can be worn most seasons.

 

2. linen

Pair any of these basic denim pieces with our linen tops.

               
linen tops
Fresh looks in new colors and “feel me” textures! Some have raw edges too. These are super airy, lightweight tops, perfect for the hot weather that’s coming.

3. accessorize

Need some spark for your wardrobe? How about a fashionista smartphone case? Show off your personality with one of our many hilarious images…or pick one you can fidget with like the “moving makeup iphone case” filled with floating glitter, nailpolish, perfume bottles and more!

moving makeup iphone case

And there you have it! Next time…let’s talk dresses! To see more now, click :

https://idressmodest.com

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MODESTY

very fashionable pretty woman in denim button dress with chic sunglasses and chic bandana over long hair
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Here’s my personal explanation of a question I keep getting-“why modest?” Sometimes I almost feel like people are offended by the word 😆 I thought long and hard about what to call our store (which I run with my husband) and felt that I wanted to include the term “modest,” as that is what the store is about. Having finally found modest clothes that actually fit my personality, I wanted to share them with others who might also be searching. This is a really fun passion for me and it’s the only reason I do it! There is no single definition of the term “modesty.” It can apply to behavior, attitude or dress. Commonly, it is thought of as the way ultra-religious women dress, covering certain areas of the body that are considered alluring. This is why many religious women cover their hair. Modest dress usually applies to clothing that covers large parts of the body. Often it means not wearing pants, but in some religions, showing skin is unacceptable, and pants are considered more modest than skirts. Modest necklines are usually less revealing as are skirt and sleeve lengths. Modesty can also be a way of behaving in a dignified fashion, perhaps not being as loud or not needing to be the center of attention. Modesty of this sort requires the self confidence to know that you don’t have to be heard to be seen! So modesty is a thing of the senses. Women can be beautiful even if their body is not completely revealed to everyone’s eyes.. Women can be powerful and heard even if they voice their opinions in a quiet way. We don’t have to be screaming to the world with our dress and our voices “look at me!” We might be noticed and respected more if we reveal less of ourselves. Modesty is super-becoming and useful the older we get. Who needs to worry about revealing all of the body parts that are not looking as great as they once did? Clothes can amazingly hide years of change. Have you ever noticed how beautiful an older woman can look in a pretty pink suit? What do you think?

and…for some great outfit ideas don’t forget to visit https://idressmodest.com where you can find these and more!

 

 

 

 

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an embarrassing shopping story…

adult beautiful elegant eyewear
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I love this picture, don’t you? It’s how I would have hoped to have looked yesterday, but the reality was a bit different…

So I felt pressured to go out with my husband yesterday (on a ‘date’).  He had been working nights this past week and had hoped to spend time with me during the days, but as Sarcoidosis would have it, I was pretty much wrecked the entire week. I did not feel well once during the four days that he was free. So when Sunday arrived and again he was off, I felt guilty and agreed to go out with him.

Our “date” started with a lovely lunch at our favorite little bistro. The food was delicious and, although I wasn’t hungry, I really enjoyed the change of pace and being out. I’d been cooped up all week and it was great to get dressed and see people. My husband was having a great time, so after lunch we agreed to head to one of our favorite stores where there was a big sale. My husband needed replacement shoe inserts for work and both of us love the store itself, especially when there’s a sale. I really wasn’t feeling great, but decided that I could handle the trip, so off we went. Besides, my husband looked so happy to finally be able to go out with me, and I felt really good about that.

We got to the store and split up, he to find the shoe inserts and I decided to check out the clearance rack. I found a bunch of things and started to carry them but suddenly felt very warm. So I grabbed a cart, loaded my coat and a few items and headed for the fitting room. On the way I started perspiring and feeling a bit nauseated, but was excited to try on the clothes, so I continued to the dressing room.

I hung up one then two jackets, then needed to sit. I grabbed the little stool, sat down and threw the other things on the floor. No energy to hang them. I was able to stand again and try a couple things on quickly before I realized that this wasn’t going well. So again I sat, this time feeling dizzy. Meanwhile, my husband had made his way to the fitting room, and was chatting happily with one of the sales people outside my door. He quickly got into one of his usual lengthy conversations, chatting about anything and everything, as anyone who knows my husband has witnessed him do.

 

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But on the other side of the door, I continued to feel worse, nauseated and dizzy, finally having no choice but to lay down on the floor. This was completely embarrasing, given that there was a 2 foot opening at the bottom of the fitting room door and I really didn’t want anyone to see me lying there! I figured my husband would be done chatting soon, but the two of them just kept blabbing! Unlike women, men have absolutely no sixth sense, and he was completely unaware of what was happening just two feet from his feet!  So as women have learned to do, I realized that I would have to spell it out for him, knocked on the door from the inside, and asked him to check out the outfit I was trying on. He politely finished shmoozing, then opened the door, shocked to find me on the floor! I told him I needed an ambulance because every time I tried to sit up, I got dizzy. He thought we should wait a bit to see if I felt better, and about 20 minutes later I actually did.

I got up slowly, looked in the mirror and was startled to see how pale I was. But I felt better, and was finally able to stand. As time went on I felt like myself and was even able to continue shopping. I didn’t buy anything in the end, even though I really liked a certain jacket, but the thrill of the sale was gone. I regret it now, because I missed a great buy, but this is what Sarcoidosis does. It just puts a damper on things.

I used to love shopping. I still do. But it’s not the same. These days I’d rather stay at home snuggled with a dog on each side, doing something creative, like writing about my stupid Sarcoidosis! I gotta tell you, though, the creative stuff is more thrilling…something I would have never discovered had I not gotten sick.

So for all the shopaholics out there, next time you don’t really have money to go shopping, try doing a project instead. You might actually enjoy it more and your bank account will definitely thank you. And…if you’re not feeling well, stay home!

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